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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I come from a culture where generally parents help kids with childcare and college, and then kids help parents with their expenses as they grow old. 
To me, this is normal, and unless the amount of support is like 1/4 of your family income it should not be a problem for my (prospective) spouse (I divorced before my parents aged to this point so it hasn’t been an issue). 
I generally find that for Americans even a relatively small amount that does not go towards loans, mortgage, pension, or college savings represents a problem (I am talking about regular middle class people not DCUM). Many can’t fathom spending even a small amount “frivolously”, it includes helping family, but also vacations or entertainment/culture. 
This was the difference that struck me when I first came to the US: in my culture the future is considered very uncertain and there is less delayed gratification spending/saving. [/quote]

People are reacting more negatively to OP because she may have posted before and her parents have not made the best choices.  Her father needs to get a job.  He should not be "retired" if his finances are so bad.  And if this is because of debts, the right thing to do is to settle the debt or at least make a real plan to get out of debt, rather than just asking for more and more and more money.  [/quote]

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