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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My husband isn’t very involved in day-to-day parenting.

I make almost all of the decisions regarding the kids, which I’m very happy about because I see so many friends and their spouses arguing over parenting decisions. The downside is that the emotional stress of parenting falls on my shoulders — and I don’t have anyone to share it with. [/quote]

I’m a dad, I have always made all the kid decisions, it has never caused me any emotional stress at all. [/quote]

That’s interesting.  Are you also a ninja?

How does one remain detached and unemotional about decisions regarding their own children?  [/quote]

I don’t understand why there’s any need to get emotional about 99% of kid decisions. What day care they should attend, what summer camps they go to, where they have their birthday parties, what clothes to buy, why would I get emotional about any of that? Most of the decisions are no-brainers.

Give me an example of a kid decision that emotionally exhausted you, and why.[/quote]

DP but my dc has had to be hospitalized for mental and behavioral health issues - and yes we tried everything else first. Multiple times. It was horrible. And while my then fiance now husband was supportive and helpful, my ex was not so the weight of it fell entirely on my shoulders. It was exhausting, stressful, traumatic (visits were very limited because of COVID) and I hated it. Getting the right supports outside of the hospital was also a huge challenge because of COVID, needing the other parents support and participation, and working to stabilize the child. Thankfully my dc is doing better now, but we still have a long way to go working with his specific needs. There are parenting decisions that are emotional, and hard, I'm glad you've never had to make one though.

Birthday parties, meh, whatever. School decisions can be hard - particularly when they are for special needs related accommodations. The other decisions you mention (summer camps, daycare, school choice) can be difficult not because you're emotionally attached but because they require considering the logistics of transportation, getting a spot before they're all gone, all while balancing the day to day childcare and household tasks. [/quote]

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