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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]We have encounter this a lot as well. We are completely on board with what our kids friends identify as. The 2 scenarios  we have witnessed are 
1. The other parents were not aware we knew, so just used the give pronouns from birth.
2. The other parents were not quite fully on board. In this situation we just refer to the friend by their name. No he/she/they. [/quote]

This came up briefly upthread, but there’s also:

3. Child prefers a different name and pronoun outside the home but does not want to change at home, for whatever reason. Sometimes it feels like a bigger leap to leave behind what you’ve always been called at home. We’re in that situation, even though both parents are completely supportive and all close friends and some extended family use the other name and pronouns. Very confusing for everyone, but that’s what works for our child. [/quote]

Well, 3 is usually a big clue that this is entirely performative and not sincere. I mean, it's sincere in the sense that at this age they try on identities, but the kid isn't really trans and isn't going to transition or something.  Best thing for parents in this situation is to just ignore. Be nominally supportive and say the right things but don't freak out because this too will pass, just like that time they wanted a turtle when they were 7.[/quote]

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