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[quote=Anonymous]Hi OP, I think that's a legitimate concern, and I also think space is a legit concern.

With a nanny, you have to be prepared to have someone working very very closely with you.  It's a partnership, and you have to cede a certain amount of control.

My kids are now 15 and 12, and just yesterday I made an African dish our nanny used to make for them that they consider a comfort food.  It's easy, it's great that their horizons were broadened in that way, but it's not MY comfort food, you know?  They still keep in touch with her (she was their nanny until the youngest was 5) and we see her sometimes (probably not enough for either of them, between covid and just busy lives and activities it's not easy to maintain a relationship with someone).

You need to decide what things matter to you and what don't.  I liked that I could rush around and get myself ready in the morning, but I didn't need to wake up kids or get them ready.  I liked I didn't have to worry too hard about pick up times.  I liked they got individual attention and if they were having a hard day they could chill out at home.  I liked that they loved their nanny and if they weren't feeling well she could comfort them.

And, to be perfectly honest-  I liked the idea of benign neglect.  I didn't want my kids to be scheduled and have "activities" all day long.  They get that in school, they didn't need it at 2.  And I didn't need daily craft projects or whatever else.  There is nothing wrong with benign neglect.

As someone said upthread, I know many people who had au pairs, but I just wasn't interested.  I didn't want that responsibility and having someone in my space all the time.

You find what works for you.

That said, your space issue is hard.  You really need to think that through.  [/quote]

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