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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]People who are the same age and in a similar life stage as me but who insist on giving me advice constantly. Or who assume I’m looking for advice when I talk about an issue I’m having, when it should be very obvious to anyone paying attention that I was just telling you what was going on in my life when you asked “what’s new with you.”

A lot if middle aged women out here trying to be lifestyle gurus or something. No thank you, I just wanted a friend to complain about annoying sh!t with. Next![/quote]

Same! I thought it was just something about me that made people do this. I can’t stand it. I have a mother and 2 older sisters who insist on doing this, and I will tolerate it. Not from other people.[/quote]

PP here and I've often wondered if there is something about my appearance or demeanor that makes people think I want or need advice. My therapist actually coached me on saying "thanks, but not looking for advice" when people do this and that has helped some. But it's also made me realize that it's often not about me at all, because even when I say this, some people will respond "Oh of course, not trying to tell you what to do..." and then continue on with their advice. I think some people just don't know how to relate to other people except from a position of authority. I've notice people who give advice a lot also tend to have other traits that indicate they like to feel above others -- very judgmental, for instance, or often pontificating on things like politics or popular culture as though they are the only ones who read the news or watch movies or something.

Someone upthread joked about DC being a bad place for people who dislike know-it-all and braggarts, and I think this is part of that, too. Among white collar professionals in DC, there are many people who need to be considered a subject matter expert on everything, even stuff outside their field -- parenting, fashion, politics, where the best restaurants, where to vacation, etc. It's definitely a regional trait to some degree.[/quote]

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