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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]What do you mean when you say he works 45 hours a week?

I think a weekend babysitter is a wonderful idea. Ours has helped our marriage tremendously.[b] Who cares if he wants to play video games in that time?[/b][/quote]

WTF?

She’s working a lot more than he is and he’s not pulling his weight. Don’t have more kids.

Hiring a weekend sitter so she can work and he can have even more free time would be infuriating to me.

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 Unless they can afford to do this.  If they can, then why not?  Poor kid, though.

Dad wants to use his free time playing video games (IMO, that's  a turnoff but that's for another thread).
Mom wants to use her free time to work.

I don't see anything wrong with hiring a sitter a few hours a week to get some free time, but if OP's DH is the primary caregiver (which she said he agreed to), then he needs to do the majority of the mental work, like admin stuff, because that's what the primary caregiver does.

IMO, he probably didn't realize who much mental work goes into managing a child.  FYI, this only gets worse as the kid gets older. My kids are teens, and there's a ton of stuff to manage and coordinate.[/quote]

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