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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My husband really wanted kids. He assured me would be the primarily caregiver.

I am very focused on my career and wrk long hours.

He assured me that he would be happy to be the primary caregiver

Now this has called a lot of resentment.

He does do drop off and pick up in 75% of cases.

But he does none of the cooking, admin, finding daycare, applying for passport, etc.

He thinks I should do that because I do less of the direct care.

If I need to work on the weekend, I have to hire a babysitter so that he can play video games. He can’t handle more than 3 hours taking care of a toddler.

I work 60 hours a week and he works 45 hours a week.

I have no free time.

He has plenty.

Love the baby and I like my career.

Our marriage is strained because we fight about childcare and tasks all the time.

I thought that it’s possible for a guy to be the main caretaker.

Was naive.

[b]Marriages work much better when they follow traditional gender roles, except for a few circumstances. But that’s the exception not the rule.[/b]

Unfortunately I make more than he does so I cannot step back.

I am exhausted and resentful of him.

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I agree with you, OP.

Sadly, we will get roasted by people on this forum, who think they are required to somehow defend what little they learned as undergrads in feminism 101.[/quote]

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