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[quote=Anonymous]I was spanked when I was a child and this is absolutely not true. I remember being naughty and remember my parents explaining exactly what I did wrong, what I was supposed to have done and what the consequences were, besides getting spanked.

My brother got spanked over falsifying my mom's signature in a school communication sheet. I will never forget my mom crying telling him that if he ever became a swindler it would not be because she didn't teach him any better. She spanked him and went back to school with him the next day and made him apologize to the teacher and the principal. He also took extra chores at home that entire month.

He was 9 years of age.

I remember being spanked for lying regarding an assignment I was supposed to turn in and forgot. Instead of just owning my mistake I made up a story and my mom found out later on. Again, a spank, apology and extra chores.

We both learned that our behavior was unacceptable and never ever held it against my parents. They did their best and thanks to them we're today happy, successful, productive members of society.

A deserved spank is not abuse.

[quote=Anonymous]I'm afraid to give my advice but here goes.

1.If this was my child, I would not spank her.  period.  ever.  That is just you losing control and hitting a young child. It might make an impact but really? [b] Is this what you want her to remember about you?[/b]  You yourself said that you didn't want to do it so don't.  You will just feel like crap and so will she.

2. I would definitely give her some harsh consequences and have a very serious talk with her. Only you know what is really important to her and will hurt the most in terms of losing it.  There have been some good ideas.  When you talk to her, listen.  Ask questions.  and listen.  Don't just talk at her.

3. I would talk to the guidance counselor and get some input from her/him.  Maybe she will have some ideas on how to help it stop, maybe not but, at the very least, she could arrange a lunch bunch where your daughter can invite friends and there will be no stealing on those days for sure.  Perhaps it could be an opportunity to discus such topics as a group without pointing any fingers.

4. If you aren't currently working or could get away for a little bit,  you could go to her lunch. Most schools have a pretty "open door policy" for coming to lunch with your kid, especially if you are working the lunchroom and helping all the kids with what they need.

5. If things don't get better, then perhaps therapy.

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