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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Nobody ever admits that they regret it.  If the impact on children is bad, they are in denial about it.[/quote]

No regrets at all. My kids are fine. Minimal impact of divorce. It is not really a big deal unless people are immature and have a disaster of a divorce. If finances are maintained and parents are civil and coparent fine, divorce is not a big deal. Regret not doing it sooner.[/quote]

See, that's what people say when they are in denial.  Are some kids fine?  Sure.  But not as many as divorced people would have us believe.[/quote]

No one is in denial. My kids have an infinitely better childhood than I had with miserably married parents. Had almost no impact on them at all. No financial impact, no moving, we are flexible in seeing them, 50/50 custody and not strict about days, no fighting, same neighborhood, same schools, same college fund, same retirement account. Lived as separate in the house years before divorce as well as separate holidays with our families...there has literally been almost zero impact...except they got an extra house 6 minutes away.

If they complain in the future, honestly, I am going to say "Cry me a river." I had an awful childhood despite the appearance that everything was fine. It was awful. My kids have two parents who love them who are not married. They lost nothing except us under the same roof. Hardly the end of the world.[/quote]

Really? 
They lost the model of a two parent house and marriage.
They lost stability.
They lost being able to go to one house for holidays and not have worry about who to choose and which parent will be upset.
They lost the being able to learn conflict resolution in relationships…
We can go on and on but they did lose. The fact that you don’t realize that says so much about you and your childhood. [/quote]

They have a two-parent household—with house minutes apart. 
They did not lose ANY stability. 
We always did separate holidays. I did too—with married parents. Nothing changed on that front. We do birthdays together.
They did not lose conflict resolution skills. There was no fighting. There was silence, no speaking and no relationship whatsoever. Nothing changed on that front. 
They did not lose a thing.

I do not believe a non-relationship marriage is a good model for children. I could care less if they ever marry. In 20 years, 30% of people will never marry. It is an outdated and not great institution. You seem to think marriage is some great model/ when it is good, that is fine. When it is abnormal, it is not. [/quote]

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