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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Why did he LIE to her? 
Was he shocked to learn he might need to change a poopie diaper???[/quote]

He didn't lie.  He changed his mind.  It happens.[/quote]

He didn't lie or change his mind.  He learned from experience.  He explicitly told OP that he enjoyed having a child, but learned from the first child that it was more work than he expected and was willing to go through again.  In addition, he has the burden of a wife who has a chronic illness that may cause her health to degenerate in the future.  He is being thoughtful and preparing to care for HER if her illness actually causes her to need care.  OP is concerned about having children to care for her, but there is no guarantee that her children will be old enough, capable enough or willing enough to care for her as her health deteriorates, but her husband seems to be all three and will care for her.

As a husband who has a wife with a degenerative genetic disorder, I do think long term about how much care I need to provide for my wife.  For me, I was willing to take care of her and two children, so we stopped at two children.  I can definitely understand his concerns and why he would want to stop at one child.

And I think it would be unfair for OP to push him to have and raise another child when he may need to provide care for a medically deteriorating spouse and one child already and has said that he doesn't think he is up to going through the childcare responsibilities for another child.  [/quote]

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