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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I find it sad and pathetic that people can't be away for 30, 60, etc days without somebody categorizing it as "abandonment" whether it is for the courts or not.

Right before my friend's nervous breakdown she said, I wish I had an addiction so I could just go away for 30 days. Sometimes life is too much or relationships become hostile and a break is necessary and good.

People on here will cry "grow up" or "grow a pair" but I really wish people would take 30 days to work on themselves and come back better and stronger than be their normal miserable, broken self.[/quote]

It’s sad that your friend’s life was so hard, but you’re basically saying the only way she could reclaim her mental health was by abandoning her children. It’s bad for a child if you have to leave for a month or two because your mental health is that bad. It’s not necessarily your fault, but it still doesn’t make it good for your kids. From their perspective, they had a parent who was sick and couldn’t be there for them. They are entitled to feel abandoned.[/quote]

You could say the same about cancer or COVID. But you wouldn’t.[/quote]

I actually would, to be honest. If your parent is isolated for 2 weeks with Covid one time, okay, that’s not the hugest deal. If your parent is isolated in the hospital with cancer for 2 months and totally unavailable to you, it’s not your parent’s fault, but it’s undeniably bad for the child. The child can definitely feel that they were abandoned.[/quote]

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