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Sorry, I don't invite people to stay overnight who make me feel bad about myself, or God, forbid, my CHILDREN.

Pick up the phone and disinvite him. You can tell him that you have thought a lot about how he expected you to be his maid, and how he bullied your daughter, and that you do not want him visiting for now.

And your husband can shut up and and go with it if he doesn't have the moral courage to defend you and his daughter.

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+100 you are setting a horrible example for your daughter by tolerating someone who is cruel to her and treats women as second class citizens in your home [/quote]

This. It's unacceptable. Don't create an environment where you KNOW it's going to happen.[/quote]

+1 and also, OP, do you work? If you and DH both work I don't understand why you seem to be responsible for everything surrounding FIL's visit. Tell DH it's his father, and he can spend time with him (taking off from work if necessary), get his meals other than those you may already be preparing for the whole family, wait on him etc.

If you are home all day I can see more how this dynamic developed, but it's time to break it. Find a way NOT to be home all day during FIL's visit. He should not expect that someone is there to wait on him all the time. And if he does, that someone can be his own son, not you.

Have you ever called him out directly on his behavior toward your daughter? Perhaps he is genuinely unaware of how he treats her. I'd start with that. And if he can't or won't change, or denies it, or yells, then you shouldn't have him over -- or should make sure any time he spends with either kid is supervised by you.

Honestly just send your DH to visit him for 2 weeks, it sounds like everyone would be better off.[/quote]

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