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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm not sure if it was a a red flag, but it was something that I knew about before marriage, and has affected our marriage. My husband is a night owl, and I'm a big morning person. This wasn't a negative when we were dating, or before kids, but since kids it's become our biggest stress point. All activities need to be planned for later, kids need to be kept quiet until late morning, he's a miserable person in the morning if forced to wake up, and is physically unable to go to bed earlier without guaranteeing a night of no sleep due to insomnia.

So yeah, it sucks, but I'm guessing it's not a permanent suck. I miss my alone time, and I feel like he's missing out on quality time with the kids, and I hate that I'm single parenting for most of the weekend, but I honestly don't think there's anything that can be done. When the kids are older, I'm assuming it'll work itself out.[/quote]

If he cares enough, he'll compromise. I'm a night owl (wife). Husband is early to bed, early to rise. After we had a child, I started waking up early to have coffee and chat with him. It was peaceful quiet time before the baby woke up. We still do this years later. I drink more coffee/tea than I should, but it's worth it to be in a good (or at least semi-awake) mood and have that couple time.

I've also successfully trained myself not to sleep in. Even when we travel without our kid on vacations, I never sleep past 9:30 am.

I have the most trouble with going to bed early, which I have to do if I wake up early. (I am very delicate with sleep needs and feel very off-kilter without 8 full hours at minimum.) I often read a book or read on my Kindle a little too long. But I never let it go past 11pm.

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Has he compromised too?[/quote]

Yep. He would happily go to bed at 9pm but will stay up til 10:30-11 for my sake.[/quote]

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