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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]A lot of people think the problem with some behavior isn’t the behavior itself, it’s getting caught. This is not the case here. It’s not okay to have a running joke like this where you make fun of somebody  behind their back.  You all are laughing at her, not with her.

Pleas acknowledge your mistake and apologize in person. She’s probably going to be really hurt that her friends have been laughing at her behind her back for so long, but I think it’s worth trying to make amends. [/quote]

We seem to be going off the topic of food, so I'll just ask: Do the people who say they never make fun of people behind their backs have no foibles they would be OK with their friends joking about? I have friends who drive me nuts in one way or another but overall, I think they rock. The ones I'm closest to are self-aware enough to know their minor flaws (which I consider being a bad cook to be), and while I wouldn't want them to harp on mine, I wouldn't care if they did. The truth is its own defense. [/quote]

The difference is being upfront about it. Perhaps if OP teased the friend at the time "did you mix up the salt and sugar again?" it would be funny and lighthearted. But to accept the cupcakes and then snipe about them behind the baker's back is different. And yes, I can and do laugh about flaws with friends - weight, bad with money, terrible taste in boyfriends, procrastinator, etc. Nobody is perfect. [/quote]

Agreed, plus, there is a difference between a one-time “is it just me or is her food kind of bad” and what OP and her friends were doing. It’s apparent they have bonded over the bad cooking and that they have been hiding it. I don’t think they are mean girls but this is mean girl behavior . [/quote]

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