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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Any mental disorders, disabilities, or underlying reason why he’s “losing his jobs?” [/quote]

Adhd [/quote]

Did his parents get him diagnosed, treated and meds before age 18?
Hope so. But hope he’s on a regiment now..[/quote]

They did not - his mom was a teacher but she is a total ostrich. She ignores huge issues generally. Dh has a truly wonderful personality and means well and it was only after we were married I noticed egregious financial abdication/ forgetfulness and asked him to get therapy where he was immediately dx and put on meds. He has now been on meds for years and has a new psychiatrist who says these are the right meds and a therapist. But the parents never dealt. I think I resent their hiding most of all. They don’t deal with anything whereas I feel like I had to do it for them. But that is totally my fault I suppose which also sucks as a realization[/quote]

Not to jump in defense of your mother in law, I think a lot of this is generational (assuming your ILs ages are near my parents’, which is early-mid 70s). I don’t ever remember kids being diagnosed with adhd when I was growing up - but you better believe they and their parents were blamed for them “Misbehaving.” Also the reluctance to discuss psychological problems, which is what this is, was much more common, or put another way, it is only in the past 20ish years that people started more openly discuss mental health. People had much more of a mentality of: suck it up and deal, and don’t discuss dirty laundry. [/quote]

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