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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Grow up. My ex h is in his 22nd year of reserves. I was the primary parent (still am). He was not going to do anything with kids when little especially. It had hardly any impact. I have always worked full time. There are 2 kids.

You are being silly: it is not like being a surgeon on call all the time. [b]Many women do the bulk of parenting. If you expect otherwise, you should not have kids…it will be too much for you[/b]. [/quote]

This is such terrible awful advice.   I don't think OP  should try to talk her H out of being out of the reserves, but to act like men are just lazy half-assed parents like you ex across the board and women should just accept this is just wrong.[/quote]

+1 for my generation men are expected to contribute 50% and most do. This isn’t 1950s anymore. Maybe increase your expectations?[/quote]

I am early 40s. Most women my age, and my cousins 8 years younger have the same experience. Men did nothing until elementary school. I solved my problem by getting a divorce. My youngest is 7. Divorce is what made him lift a finger. My friends who expected men to actually do half the work are miserable in their marriages. Some men will do 50/50 with kids and the house, but most will not and that is reality. [/quote]

Agree. Even seen this with my divorced coworkers. They never tried to be there for their kids after school, at games, summer or even when physically vacations (they’d work and email a lot). Then they had to do 50/50 and half gave up and went to 80-90% and the other half finally started being a coparent. 
The ones with older kids or teens didn’t do much tho, unclear why someone said they are more involved after elementary school, they didn’t change.[/quote]

You married bums. All there is to it.[/quote]\

[b]No, you got lucky[/b]. Most women do the lion share of parenting...even when they work full time. There are literally hundreds of articles currently about this. T[b]he fact that you don't understand this means you got lucky and you are an anomaly[/b]. [/quote] I'm sure you have to tell yourself that to cope with the fact that you made a bad choice. You made a terrible  choice and are doubling down and telling other women that they just have to accept this as fact.[/quote]

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