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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]DH's should never be allowed to entirely abscond night duty unless they have a job where specifically being exhausted could be a physical danger (like truck driving or something).

Keep them as involved in the labor as mom from day 1 and then when your kids are 2/3/4/5/6/7 etc they will still be pulling equal weight.[/quote]

DW's should never be allowed to entirely abscond income earning duty unless they are disabled.

Keep them involved in the labor market as dad from day 1 and when your kids are 2/3/4/5/6/7 etc they will still be pulling equal weight.[/quote]

I mean, I suggested upthread that it’s fine fir the person in leave to handle overnights so the person with work in the morning can sleep. But this is idiotic on its face.

OP has a job and is on maternity leave. If that leave is paid, she has not for one day stopped contributing financially. And her DH just completed his own one month leave. So by your logic, as long as OP has a paycheck coming in, I guess her DH should have to split the nighttime duties. Actually, maybe they can split them proportionally based on how much they make, because sleep is a rewarded for making money, obviously.

I honestly think a major reason many women leave the work force when they have kids is because they realize how little help they will get from their husbands at home and just don’t think they can work if they are going to also do 70-80% of the childcare and housework when they are not working. So if as a DH your main goal is to make sure DW goes back to work, it’s actually in your interest to do as much childcare as possible, even when she’s still on leave, so she sees that you will be an equal partner.[/quote]

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