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[quote=Anonymous]OP here.  I apologize for some of the language I used in my original post.  I see that I should have kept some of my more emotional/personal thoughts out of the post, and I see how some of what I said sounded condescending and insulting. I am sorry for that.

I should have clarified in my original post that really what I am talking/thinking about, primarily, is daycare for kids under the age of 2 or so.  A PP posted something about how this is an important time developmentally, and whomever is spending the lion's share of the time with an infant/toddler is playing a significant role in who that child will become, etc. I tend to agree with this, in general.

I'm not a homeschooler, I don't want the 1950s household, etc. I have an advanced degree, and had a professional job when I got pregnant the first time, and my intention was to put DC in daycare and return to work, which I did do. But after a month or so, I just had this intense feeling that I was really missing out by not being with DC most of the time.  I also felt like DC wasn't getting a whole lot of interactive, engaging care at the daycare we had chosen.  But the feeling of wanting to be taking care of DC was so strong that I actually quit my job (at which I had been for 10+ years).  So now my intention is to SAH until my kids are school age, and then return to the workforce.  And by SAH, I don't mean that I want them at my side 24/7, that we are just sitting in the house alone, not learning to read, etc.  One goes to preschool 2 days/week; we travel quite a bit, do lots of activities, outings, etc. both just or in groups, here at home and outside of home. I just, I guess it is just hard for me to understand that all mothers didn't also have than same strong desire to take care of young DC.  But it seems that all didn't/don't; and I aim to fully respect that. I completely understand the desire to be a contributor to society, a member of the workforce, etc. I don't mean to suggest that a woman's place is in the home - I just feel that, in my opinion, it would be ideal for women to be able to take a 1- to 2-year break from work after the birth of a child.  As some PPs have pointed out, our government doesn't facilitate that right now.
And, as I mentioned earlier, it is hard for me to understand that there are mothers who really would not prefer to take 1-2 years off from work after birth.  It is hard for me to imagine not wanting this, I think, because I felt so intensely the opposite.  But I will respect that some moms feel this way.

Thanks to those who posted about the social welfare policies here in the US, and the role this may play in what I described as "degeneration of society." I see now that I sound like my grandmother complaining about "society today," and my word choice was poor.  Some PPs more accurately expressed what I was getting at when they described some of our social welfare policies.

To the 16:22 poster who was so angry with me - I am sorry.  I fall into that category of (relatively) new mother, new to exploring these feelings and issues.  I didn't express myself well and I am sorry that I was insulting.

I understand that this is a sensitive topic.  Now, I am not sure why I posted in the first place.  I was just musing on things, and wanted to start a discussion.  Mostly I wanted to know if there were others out there who felt the way I did.  Anyway, again, I apologize for having insulted anyone.[/quote]

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