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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My wife was 120lb when we met.  After she had one baby she went up to 180lb,  Then she never worked our or even tried to get the weight off FOR SEVEN YEARS.  Last year she was down to 135lb for a few weeks because she was sick.  Now, she's back up to 150lb.

I don't find her attractive at all.  I run four times a week and run 5k and 10k races to keep myself in shape.  She has zero interest or motivation.  She's not even remotely attractive anymore.  [/quote]

You need to have a talk with your wife. Ignoring it for the sake of not hurting her feelings will fester over and ruin your marriage, or just make for a sexless marriage. Tell her that you want her to take care of herself and that health is sexy. Find some ways to get her involved in some of your fitness activities and make healthier suggestions for family meals. [/quote]

Definitely talk to your wife.  [b]Tell her you are cutting back on your runs and training to give her a break from the kids.  Start taking over the meal planning and cooking and make healthy tasty meals for her and the family.[/b] What did she do for excercise before kids?  Get her a gift card for a yoga place and take over putting kids to bed one day a week so she can go to class.  [/quote]

Yup, this.

I take on more of the household load so H can get his exercise in. I cook almost all the meals so that he can have that extra hour to exercise in the evening, watch the kids on the weekend so he can go get a 8 mile hike in, not uncommon for him to work late because he took off for an hour to workout during the day. Lots of promises to get up early to work out or to take over some meals so I can also get a break, but very rarely happens.

I’d be pissed as hell if I found out H resented I didn’t look as good as I did in my 20s because I was picking up all this extra work so he could look sexy. I’d probably start hitting the gym every day after work and he can figure out what to do with the kids. And once I lost all the weight I’d probably start looking for a nice husband upgrade. [/quote]

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