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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP needs to come back and answer the question of what he agreed to before the application went in.  The fact she won’t makes me suspect that mom was hoping if Dad got in, he could be pressured into paying. And that makes me a lot less sympathetic to mom.  Feel bad for DD that he mom wasn’t above board though. [/quote]

She did say they both filled out the forms, so he went in eyes wide open. Why didn't he, the child's father, ask some questions or set some ground rules? Why is it on the mother to ask "you're not going to be a complete d*ck about this later given that you know where DD is applying right?"[/quote]

Filling out the FAFSA and CSS is not the same as saying the sky is the limit when it comes to pay for college.  Most colleges, you can apply and look at options late. But before applying ED, OP and her d had to make sure dad was on board.

It’s strange OP hasn’t come back and said what the agreement is, or even what she wants.  In fact, all she’s said is dad earns a lot more.  Also as of she expects dad to pay most or all of the most.  Which makes me wonder if OP called Dad and said. So, DD got into Cornell.  It’s 80k a year.  Is installment of 40k Wil e due in May, the. Sever six months.

OP points out Dad earns more, and asks if DD will have to take out loads.  I wonder how much op sees herself contributing? Hard to believe this wasn’t a discussion before the application.   OP really screwed her kid, because even if her kid can get out of the ED contract, it’s not like she be allowed to apply to a bunch of private colleges and compare awards now.  [/quote]

If he earns a bit more but is still paying child support for this child or kids at home, that could be an issue too.  [/quote]

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