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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Go by yourself to meet with a lawyer that specializes in disability matters to figure out how realistic it is for your brother to get disability payments, Medicaid, Section 8 housing, etc. Hopefully, that same lawyer can advise you on landlord tenant matters and restraining orders, but that might need to be a different lawyer.

Serve your brother with an eviction notice as advised by the lawyer. Be ready to call the police and get a restraining order if he kicks a door in or does anything else physical — this might get him out sooner.

Once he is out — even homeless — offer to help with in a public place only with paperwork for disability, housing, etc.

And get your own therapist to help let go of the guilt that you seem to feel about all this.[/quote]

+1 to all of this.

This sounds incredibly hard. I am so sorry.[/quote]

This is reasonable advice but the average SS disability claim takes 2-3 years to process, usually with at least one denial and appeal. Most successful claimants have a good lawyer, and the lawyer’s bills can really add up. (I used to work on various public assistance policies.)

The problems here are (a) it’s not clear the brother will eventually qualify for SSI/Medicaid, (b) brother is over 18 and would need to give his psychiatrist permission to share his diagnosis with the lawyer and/or OP, and (c) it sounds like OP needs immediate relief from the violence and acting out, not in two years.

It’s definitely worth meeting with a disability lawyer to see if he might qualify and whether brother will cooperate with the process. The lawyer would be able to say whether borderline or ADHD qualifies one for SSI, although I suspect not. But OP also needs immediate relief, and for that I like the idea of getting him his own efficiency somewhere cheap (read, far out in the suburbs) with a cut-off date that that depends on the diagnosis (if brother gives permission to share with op) that is either 6 months or when the SS claim is resolved. [/quote]

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