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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You want what you want. Good for you for sticking to it. I don't think that 4 months is a long time, but it really depends on what has been happening for that four months. I would be interested in what a committed relationship means to him and what about it he feels unready for. I would do a lot of listening. The point is for you to get information to process, not convince him or explain yourself. [/quote]

OP: Yes that makes sense. I'll go into it listening with an open mind. For the past 4 months we've been going out 2-3x/week. We spend the night at each other's places. He's met my friends.[/quote]

That sounds like a relationship to me ;) What are you asking him for that he is not into? As someone who divorced in my 40s there are so many possibilities
-he is being responsible about moving slow
-he's not that into you
-he is into you but also wants to see other people
-you are overly focused on BEING IN A RELATIONSHIP
-you know what you want and he is showing that he can't give you want you want[/quote]

OP: he hasn't introduced me to his friends. He never texts, only calls me (and I've asked him to). He never plans anything in the future- only a few nights out.[/quote]

Yeah, those aren't good signs. Whether he has no friends, is a bad planner, or isn't that into you, none of that makes for a good longterm relationship. If you go through with the meet up, I would definitely discuss these specifics of what you are looking for. What do your friends think of him? [b]After an awful breakup, my aunt started telling men that she would only go out on a 2nd date if they brought a female friend to vouch for them.[/b][/quote]

Wow, that's kinda crazy.  I guess it's better to know someone is kinda crazy upfront though.[/quote]

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