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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think you've already made a stain on this relationship. If I were him, I'd move on. I'm 39 years old and divorced. I don't commit after 4 months. I got out of an abusive marriage and realized I was dating the wrong people my whole life. I take things slow. Last year, I met someone recently divorced, but wanted an exclusive relationship right off the bat. I said that I wasn't willing to commit that quickly. That it's not a smart idea.

Four months is still brand new. At that stage, I would walk away from anyone who pressured me to commit. Even if we decided to stay together after the stunt you pulled, I'd date around until I found a better partner. You put out such a huge red flag. That you're unwilling to compromise and talk out major differences -- especially when it sounds like he would have come around quickly anyway. You're not great long term material for me.[/quote]

Op, this is exactly the kinda guy you don’t want to date, so you can ignore this take.[/quote]

+1. Just as men don't owe it to women to commit faster than they want, women don't owe it to men to wait around. [/quote]

I think that the guy OP was dating is well within his rights to want to take things slower than OP wants -- as one poster noted, people would be totally on the side of a woman who said her boyfriend was pushing her for more commitment than she was ready for -- but that might mean that they just aren't compatible.  He's not wrong to want to take things more slowly, but it might mean he's not the guy for her.  [/quote]

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