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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You want what you want. Good for you for sticking to it. I don't think that 4 months is a long time, but it really depends on what has been happening for that four months. I would be interested in what a committed relationship means to him and what about it he feels unready for. I would do a lot of listening. The point is for you to get information to process, not convince him or explain yourself. [/quote]

OP: Yes that makes sense. I'll go into it listening with an open mind. For the past 4 months we've been going out 2-3x/week. We spend the night at each other's places. He's met my friends.[/quote]

So, you're exclusive, you spend a lot of time together, but you want to take vacations together?  Did you even ask him about holiday plans?  Are you just expecting him to say something?  What's stopping you from suggesting a weekend trip together?

I'm not understanding what's not "committed" about your relationship.  It seems like angst about labels, to me.  [/quote]

+1.  The only material difference between b/f and g/f and casually dating is the exclusive angle and you said you are exclusive and he readily agreed to it.  I don't think I would plan a trip that required a flight with someone I was only dating for four months but I would be open to going away for a weekend to a place we could drive too.[/quote]

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