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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I stay OUT of it. No money, no time.
I give advice but he never takes it. 
Parents have the enabling codependent relation with him.  He’s 40 yo living at home, gets dumped every year and is done with his 5th one off degree, been fired from every job he had. 
Sadly probably has undiagnosed ADD or ASD which my parents did nothing for except lied and called it dyslexia. Dyslexia is why he had 3x a week therapy in middle school and why he can’t focus or pay attention.

Thankfully no alcohol abuse or money overspending or pregnancies.

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What kind of relationship do you have with your parents? Do you visit them with your kids? Curious, in the same boat and navigating things myself.[/quote]

They live far away where I was raised.  No one talks much, I’m pretty sure my dad is on the spectrum and my mom is a shell of a person after 40 years of them. She lets them have at it with their unemployment and dilly dallying around.

They come visit and sit around here, we come visit and stay a few days and then sight see. I NEVER let them watch my children without me or my spouse there. My father has absent mindedly almost ran over my 2 yo when reparking the car and thinks it’s dandy to have my 5 yo put meat on the fire grill. Doors are slammed in my kids too, when they were little. Dangerous tools left out, etc. thoughtless.

I have to get over that my brother will use up all their inheritance just sitting around doing nothing.  And he will prob get their house.  And my moms solution to his lack of a job or career is to have gifted him rental properties that she titled in his name and collects the rental income into a big pot with his name on it.

So he actually has more income than me and more more home wealth as those properties all tripled and so has their house.

I just never want any of them living with me. It took moving away for college to realize how introverted and odd my upbringing was. We literally did nothing. No trips, no sports, no Tv, no traditions. They think I’m crazy and spoiled because I go to the beach once a year and take my kids to soccer in the weekendsz they cannot fathom why anyone would do something they don’t do - which is most things! [/quote]

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