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Such a remark is incredibly hurtful.

Even if his mother abused him at some point, it's still incredibly hurtful and there are other ways of expressing one's profound sense of loss and anger. Like: "You were an abusive parent,I have PTSD from my childhood because of you and I can never trust you."

If OP says that her brother has outbursts like this, then certainly he has anger issues, and more importantly, doesn't know how to express his feelings in a mature and productive way. Since he's an adult, that's totally on him.

So regardless of whether the mother was a good parent, this person has some INDIVIDUAL THERAPY to do, on how to communicate. It's likely that he has a mental illness (ADHD, HFA, bipolar, depression in men can all present with anger issues) and he should really seek an evaluation, in case he can ease his progress with medication. Therapy alone rarely helps if there is a psychiatric disorder. Medication is much more helpful!

OP, please encourage him to talk to a psychologist or psychiatrist about his symptoms. You can accompany him to be the third party witness, as often patients do not realize how their actions are perceived by others. I've had to do that with my husband. The doctor will listen to you, then have a private consultation with your brother.

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