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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote]Stick up for your kid. Let grandma know it isnt acceptable. Figure out a way to make her mindful of the imbalance and remind her that you arent asking for fair/equal but that time spent with DC should not be spent talking about her other grandchildren. Ask DC wants she wants and how her relationship with your mother makes her feel. Ask her what you think you all should do - make it collaborative. [/quote]

No. That's helicopter parenting.
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OP here… how is it helicopter parenting?[/quote]

It's not. The point of being collaborative is that you get your son or daughter to talk through it. They may have more problem solving skills then you give them credit for but at age 7 they still need to be assisted a little bit in lots of ways.

I'm not sure what the previous poster is talking about but I have a feeling the referencing talking to your own mother about her treatment of DC. That apparently 7 year old should feel comfortable talking to Grandma someone who is an adult and who in all normal social cultural interactions would be deferred to. As if talking to your own mother about her treatment of your child is somehow akin to calling a professor and asking about their grade when they are 20 years old.

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NP. The reason this approach is awful is that it puts much of the emotional burden and decision-making on a 7-year-old. Also, it’s almost like pp is telling op to weaponize her kid against grandma. Yes, grandma is horrible. But this is something OP, the adult, needs to solve and keep her kid out of it. [/quote]

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