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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It being, divorce. The wife mentioned that she has been unhappy for years and wants a divorce. I'm lost - caught me off guard. She's in the process of moving out of our house. Two kids in the mix, both under 10. I've been shocked for the last week and am having severe anxiety. I'm keeping a cool, brave front for the world but on the inside, I'm shattered. After the kids go to bed, I'm crying and drinking myself to sleep. Wife is sleeping in a separate bedroom until she moves out. She wants nothing to do with trying to save the marriage or discuss how I can make her happy like we used to be. I'm not begging her to stay but wanted to talk about it but she's already made up her mind. I am afraid that I'm going down a rabbit hole that I won't be able to pull myself out of. She had one emotional affair years ago and I have a feeling someone else is involved, but it's neither here nor there.

For those that went through separation/divorce, how did you get your life on track? Are you happier as a single dad? Help. [/quote]

So she’s never before said she was unhappy?  or why?

And you two were mainly happy before? The last few years too? (“Be happy like we used to be”)

If she’s NEVER before told you or shown you she’s unhappy and now is saying she’s always been unhappy, that’s weird. And if you think everyones been happy all the time leading up to this point, that’s weird too.

Either she’s the weird one and can’t communicate or tell you what her needs are and never tried even years ago.

Or you’re the weird one and ignore and forget all the times she used to share her feelings and concerns. And like the total lack of connection the last few years. And think it’s normal and good to never talk or share or connect.

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