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[quote=Anonymous]Everything the PP said is good, but I want to add to this: [quote]Do not let any disagreements with your STBX get in the way of your happiness with your children. Do not let them see you sad, angry, etc. You have to present a safe and loving environment for them and that starts with you being good - it will take time but you need to fake it 'til you make it.[/quote] During my divorce, what my therapist told me is - "if you criticize your XW to your kids or to anyone else, that makes you the bad guy." You may well feel anger towards her, but very important not to show that to the kids. Frankly your friends don't want to hear you criticize her either. If you've got to vent, save it for a therapist who is paid to hear it. It's very hard to stick to this rule if you think she's criticizing you to the kids, but you gotta do it. [/quote]
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