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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It would give me pause. I am in my late 30s and have 4 close friends who have already divorced. In 3 out of 4 of those cases, the person asking for the divorce has divorced parents. The outlier has parents who are still married but went through multiple separations when the family was young. [/quote]

I agree. I think the more that divorce is normalized growing up, the more likely someone will turn to it. [/quote]'

Divorce is not a sign of failure and there is nothing wrong with it.

[i][b]Regular people[/b][/i] think a successful marriage is one that never ends. That mindset is a problem in it self.[/quote]

well, the agreement was "until death you us part" so if the wife decides to bail out of the relationship as they do by filing for divorce 70-80% of the time then, yes they were not successful because they didn't keep their commitment. Calling divorce a "successful marriage" is like saying you successfully ran a marathon when you chose to stop at the third mile mark.

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I never, ever want to get divorced but this attitude creeps me out. Sometimes you have to reevaluate your life plans Rather than basing all your decisions on something you said when life circumstances and maybe you and/or your spouse were very, very different. I like the idea that a relationship can be a success even if it ends if it’s no longer serving both parties. Calling it a failure seems to have an unnecessarily negative connotation. Maybe we should leave out the “until death do we part” but now we are in the awkward situation as a society where if we acknowledge that it’s okay if a relationship ends, we are planning on it ending or we are setting ourselves up for failure. [/quote]

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