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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, I say this as gently and nicely but firmly as possible...you have GOT to get a backbone in this.  You are now her POA, and she gave you that authority for a reason, which is echoing in every post you make.   You also have to accept that going forward you will no longer have a relationship with your brothers for awhile.  Accept it, internalize it, and then start putting into action what has to happen.  Wishing it was different is not going to change a thing because that ball is in their court, and they have made clear just how selfish and self-interested they are in this situation and are refusing to see it differently.  Sad but true, and it is completely their choice based on their predatory views.  Hopefully some day they will change but that's not happening right now.  You've GOT to get past this.

It's time to dig in and start putting into process what your mom has entrusted you to do.  She didn't give you POA to watch you let your brothers railroad away her possessions she and her husband spent a lifetime accruing for just this moment.  She gave you POA because she knew they would behave like this and she is entrusting you.

First, change the locks on her house so your brother can't move in.  Do that THIS WEEKEND.  Second, meet with your attorney and have him notify them with a legal document that you are POA and need possession of the car.  His choice is to either, turn it over to you for sale for her care, or give you $XX as compensation toward her care in return for keeping the car.  Do everything through your attorney.  Do NOT engage with them.  Every comment, every question receives the response, you need to speak with my attorney regarding that question or issue.  Get out of the middle of it since you are too emotionally affected and invested.

You not only CAN do this, you HAVE to do this.  Your mom has put her trust in you and she is what matters most right now.[/quote]

+1 to every word of this. You simply cannot let your emotions at your brothers' conduct get in the way here.

If your mom is tough enough to have the conversation with them, good. Maybe that will help. Your husband should be there too as a witness as it sounds like your brothers are starting to become accusatory towards you.[/quote]

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