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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Op here - ok thanks for the feedback.  They drive me nuts bc they alone bring over 70 toy gifts a year into our house and I’m left dealing with it all.  FIL literally said he wanted more excitement out of 4yo “so let’s see what money will do!!” And started doing this on the last day. 4yo is very good with math and does actually appreciate how much this is (because he saves up quarters to buy things like new sticker books and literally the first words out of his mouth were “wow now I don’t have to do my chore chart!!!”).  FIL framed it to 4yo as “money do you can just buy all the things you want” so appreciate all the input that I don’t actually have to leave $100s for my kid to blow at the toy store every visit and can allocate most of it to savings for DS instead. I’ll drop trying to stop it[/quote]

I [b]think the problem is that you're rewarding him money for chores. My kids do chores and also get an allowance. They're separate. Chores are what you do as part of this family and allowance is to thank you for being a good member of the family. [/b][/quote]

YES!  I don't get paid for doing the laundry, my husband doesn't get paid to make dinner,  so children do chores as part of living in our home and being part of our family.  Set table, feed cat, make bed,  clear dishes and put dishwasher,  etc.  Then they also get an allowance, and we teach to save some,  give some and spend some.  This helps them learn the importance of money, planning to use it, saving, etc for when they are adults.

If we did extra things around d the house as a one off, my mother would pay us (weed this garden bed) and I plan to do that,  too.[/quote]

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