Reply to Anybody read tomorrow’s Carolyn Hax?

Forum Index » Relationship Discussion (non-explicit)

Reply to "Anybody read tomorrow’s Carolyn Hax?"

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]None of us have *any* idea how these conversations went down in reality.  I would need to see a recording first before choosing sides.  I will say this though: No one likes to be criticized.  Always try to talk to your spouse the way you would like your spouse to talk to you.[/quote]

True. But sometimes what one spouse hears as criticism is the other spouse merely asking a question: “Did you get the XXXX at the store?” Someone who’s convinced their spouse is critical hears everything as criticism.

Ask me how I know. [/quote]

THIS. Or Hey Larlo can you work on closing the garage door when you come in the house. Its open a lot and its letting cold air in.

The response: Why cant you just close it because you see it? You left the door open last Thursday and I didnt come running to you. I just did it because we are supposed to work together right? You leave it open too.

My response: If there is something I am doing or not doing that is bothering to you, please let me know so I can work on it. I cant know what I dont know.

His response: Oh so now I am a bad person and a bad communicator and everything is my fault.

.... :roll: [/quote]

I understand what you’re saying here, but honestly, most of the time it’s just not worth the hassle.  Don’t you think?  I mean, we only get so many days here on Earth.  If it were me, personally, I would notice the garage door and just close it, not say anything, and move on with my life.  FWIW my DW does things that irritate me (and I know I do a lot of crap that irritates her) but I almost always keep it to myself because my God I just don’t want the distraction.  I want peace.  And after a few minutes I’ve completely forgotten about it.[/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics