Reply to If your 3rd child was an oops baby.

Forum Index » General Parenting Discussion

Reply to "If your 3rd child was an oops baby."

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, have you considered adoption? I know someone who adopted a baby from someone who didn't want a third child or an abortion.[/quote]

NP but I feel like adoption would be really hard to explain to her older kids?[/quote]

Just explain that they couldn't keep the baby because it was too expensive but the baby went to a loving, caring family. Maybe keep the adoption semi-open so the kids can kind of know their sibling. Or don't tell until they're older, from what I've read they seem kind of young.[/quote]

Right, easy-peasy!

[/quote]

I'm not saying adoption is easy (I've adopted a child, I know how hard adoption is), I'm saying it's an [b]option[/b]. [/quote]

It's actually a terrible option for the children in a case like this (loving home, stable finances, older sibs). Please imagine, if you will, telling your 5-year-old you gave away her baby sibling. Imagine the reaction of your extended family and friends. Now imagine the baby is an adult and comes looking for his birth family and wants to know why he was put up for adoption. "Meh, I could have taken care of you, we had a comfortable, happy life. But I just didn't feel like having another child, so I gave you away to strangers."

(I don't mean to disparage OP; not wanting another child is a perfectly valid reason not to have one. I'm just pointing out what a ridiculously unworkable option adoption is in these circumstances.)

Every time a thread like this comes up, with circumstances like these, someone suggests adoption. Seriously, WTF is wrong with you people.[/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics