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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, have you considered adoption? I know someone who adopted a baby from someone who didn't want a third child or an abortion.[/quote]

Go away. You’re ridiculous. No adult woman with children is going to give up her third child for adoption. Get over yourself. [/quote]

Not the PP of the adoption thread, but my best friend gave her third child for adoption. She's pretty well-off and could afford a third, she just didn't want to take care of it. No one cared. [/quote]

This is horrifying. I watched that Netflix documentary on Chinese adoptees. They were all haunted by the idea that their biological parents just didn't want them - it was clearly painful to them on a daily basis. The only thing that seemed to comfort them was understanding how poor their parents were and what little choice they had in giving up their children. I cannot imagine the pain of being adopted and learning that your biological mom gave you up because she "just didn't want to take care" of you. That would mess up a person for life.[/quote]

Oh but she wanted the siblings. That would hurt even worse.

This isn’t a 16 year old with no money and no experience parenting. This is someone with the means and experience to have another child choosing not to keep this one child. And once you’ve had kids, you know exactly what the relationship is between a mother and child that you’re giving up.

I doubt “no one cared.” I’m sure that child will care someday. I’m sure the other kids will care when they grow and learn what their parents did to their younger sibling. And let’s be really, any friends/family who know about this have silently judged.[/quote]
Who cares if they judge? That's what this is really about to you isn't it? What people will think. Not that it might be the best option for the people actually involved, plus the adoptive parents. Some of us don't live our lives based on what other people think of us. [/quote]

No, the judging is the least of what we’re talking about, though yes, most people will judge you for giving up a baby bc you just don’t want it. That’s a horrifying idea to most humans. But no, you’re missing the whole point about this child and the child’s siblings being messed up for life. Adoption is not some benign thing for the adoptee. It’s really a last resort and has significant emotional consequences.[/quote]

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