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[quote=Anonymous]OP here.  It makes my heart happy to read these responses!  I am so glad to know that there are lots of people out there who get it.  Yay!

I'm not going to waste my time responding to the haters.  I actually thought there would be a lot more "you're a fat useless slob!" posts. lol!

I should clarify that I'm not trying to criticize people who are busy because they have no choice.  Or the people who just don't like to sit still so they spend their time on projects - I would consider time spent on hobbies/interests as making good use of spare time anyway.  My only problem is with people who assume you are useless and unproductive if you happen to have some down time!  Or that they are super important because they are crazy busy.  I'm not trying to say that I'm super clever for not being crazy busy as a SAHM.  In fact, the people I get most annoyed with are the other SAHMs who talk about being so crazy busy, such as the blogger mom I talked about in my original post.  I don't understand people who choose to stay home with their kids instead of drawing a paycheck, but then they end up neglecting their kids and marriage because they are more concerned with making sure the brownies at the school bake sale are individually wrapped!  lol!

As for learning to say no, specifically when it comes to helping at school...I have learned the power of the phrase "if needed."  I used to volunteer to help with everything at school because I was afraid there wouldn't be enough help.  I've learned to commit to the things I LOVE at school, such as coaching Girls on the Run, being a Girl Scout leader, room mother, tutor, and pretty much anything where I get to work with kids.  For the other stuff that I don't enjoy, such as making copies for the teachers and planning fundraisers, I tell them to call me if needed.  They've never had to call.  There are lots of people who don't feel comfortable working with the kids but love the PTA stuff and even making copies - yes, those people exist.  I've seen them in the copy room.  They get really into it, and I'm so glad that they do!

I believe that it takes all kinds to make the world go round and if we all just live the life we love and focus on our passions, it will all get done and we will all be so much happier!  [/quote]

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