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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]"She's so grown up now she gets to get herself to the grocery store and do the weekly shopping for the family."

Seriously. She made a bad decision. So what? Is this her first time she's done something stupid? All teens are stupid, their brains are regrowing. [b]At least she's also shown you that she is capable of getting around town. [/b]She has some maturity to go with that stupidity. Why not start with a discussion about why she did it? Maybe she'll suggest a consequence worse than what you would. [/quote]

But she's clearly NOT capable.  They ended up in the wrong place and she didn't have enough money to pay the return fare.  [/quote]

This.

If she thinks she’s such a big girl and street Saavy, drive her butt to a corner in south east, kick her out the car, park a block away and see how long she lasts before she’s scared straight and comes running back begging to go home.

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Lol. My parents tried this and it completely backfired. I was fine, became quite comfortable in sketchy areas, and ended up going to them frequently in high school because it was more fun than the suburbs. Once I was in college with zero supervision, I’d walk around them at all hours of the night.[/quote]

DP.  You walked around "sketchy" areas at all hours of the night because it was "fun"?  I mean, I'm glad nothing happened to you but it sounds like you were working through some other issues that probably didn't have much to do with your parents' response to a particular incident.  [/quote]

Eh. I was a strong-willed kid with more determination than my parents. The more they tried to punish things out of me, the more I did them. For sure, I’d be horrified if my children did the things I used to, I’m very lucky nothing happened to me. Funny thing is that I was a good kid, my grades were good, I wasn’t into drugs or drinking or sex, I just wanted some freedom and to not be told what to do all day.

And yea, usually you had to go through the sketchy areas to get to the really good parties. Rich McLean white kid house parties were not my thing. [/quote]

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