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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Forced relationships with people we would never be interested in knowing or hanging out with. Luck of the draw.[/quote]

But isn't this true of blood family?  And coworkers? And parents of kids' friends?

I agree that the forced closeness of it contributes.  But it still seems like we are very much predisposed to let our ILs bother us more than most other people in our lives..[/quote]

Its different and a bit the same.

Blood family: you grow up with them so who they are shapes and merges with who you are -- you adapt to their quirks naturally and without realizing it. Nonetheless, plenty of people complain just as much if not more about their blood families.

Co-workers: you choose your place of employment and can quit (or fire them!). That changes how you feel about the annoying people. Plus you can ignore most of them most of the time and often have others who can run interference. Nonetheless, plenty of people complain just as much about coworkers.

Parents of kids' friends: You can completely and wholly limit these relationships to polite nods and waves from the car, if you want to. At most, you will have to endure a party or two were you can avoid the most annoying ones; and those kid friendships will change, and you will never see those people again, if you don't want to. Nonetheless, plenty of people complain just as much about other parents.[/quote]

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