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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Because they have unrealistic expectations of a working family with young children. My MIL was horrified that I didn’t take a few years off when my children were born because “I could just go back to work later.” I’m a lawyer. Taking a few years off 4 years into my career would have been disastrous for my career prospects.  Not to mention I was the primary earner at the time but that has never registered with them, because spouse, man, bring home bacon!

The oddest part of the whole relationship is that they did not spend all their time/money/vacation days visiting their parents/ILs. And they also had a set that was long distance. My husband said they only visited the long distance grandparents every 3-4 years. Yet, god forbid we even hint that we might go on a vacation that doesn’t involve traveling to them. The world ends, there is gnashing of teeth, histrionics about how we need to spend our vacation time with them, they stop speaking to us for weeks if we don’t comply. My husband only gets 12 vacation days a year. The days are use or lose and they accumulate one per month. Between school days off and sick days for kids, we often don’t end up taking a family vacation because the days are just used up or take so long to accumulate that it’s just not feasible since for example, by the time spring break comes around he will only have 3 days of leave. Yet they are retired and have been for most of our marriage, they travel all over the world, have plenty of money, but will not come to us. It is our duty to come to them and bring the children to them. I have long distance parents too and they don’t expect any of this from me. They come to us because they understand that it is not the easiest to coordinate all these things and they want to see us and make it as easy as possible so that we say yes to them instead of making it so difficult that we say no all the time.

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Omg your husband's vacation policy sucks!!! Can be get another job? Sorry about your ILs![/quote]

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