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[quote=Anonymous]OP - don't project your perceived sadness onto your child. There is so much uncertainty when it comes to siblings, and people tend to focus on this idealized best friend scenario. My SIL has a younger brother with a whole host of problems, and her mother took her brother's side - enabling poor decisions and defending him even after he went to jail - so she's estranged from them both now. She always says "I wish he was never born." But people don't consider THAT scenario when lamenting an only child. My aunt is unable to handle her own finances responsibly but is still verbally abusive to my mom despite the fact that my mom keeps giving her money because she doesn't want to see her sister starve. No one considers THAT scenario either.

So yes, OP, your child won't have a magical  life long relationship with a sibling. But your child also won't have a parasitic, abusive, or emotionally distraught relationship with a sibling either. Don't beat yourself up over one-sided what-ifs.

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