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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My ex-AP was very in love with his wife.  I was incredibly jealous. [/quote]

That is so messed up. I was in love with my AP but if I knew he was in love with his wife I would not have been attracted to him. What he did to her was awful. But I think she was in love with him too.[/quote]

It was messed up.  I told him not to show photos and we stopped ever talking about his family.  I was not happy in my marriage and he had by all appearances perfect wife and kids and a rich family/social life.  I talked to my therapist and it was a case of “I want what she has.”  He never once said a bad word about her, that’s what should have tipped me off he had no plans to ever divorce.  I wasted a lot of time.[/quote]

I also wanted what she had, in general, but it was more of a coincidence than the motive. I didn’t have a “slide into her life” fantasy. I wanted him. I knew that to get him, she would have to keep that life and we would have to start a new and different one. Did not care. I just wanted him.[/quote]

You are an ass.  You see nobody would be 'keeping that life' in that situation don't you.  But--'him' is all the trappings.  And a lot of those trappings are there due to JOINT effort on the part of both spouses.  We certainly wouldn't be loaded right now if we both didn't work and I found the investment properties and encouraged him to buy them against his will that are now worth millions.  The kids that are 'perfect' are due to the way the mother and father raised them.  You see how you coming in is a fantasy and you do actually think it would all be fun and joy for you and not a big cluster f*ck that blows up an entire family, right?  I'm guessing he fed you the line that 'it's just too complicated with kids and all'....oh we would only be together if not for the kids...now bend over.[/quote]

You are wrong. I didn't want his money. I work and have my own and am wealthy. He could give her every dime of what they had and their home. Would not have mattered to me.[/quote]

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