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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My ILs are super critical and very difficult people.  When I got married, they would continually comment on every single thing that they though we are doing wrong but would not lift a finger to o help.  I have learned to outfox them and they also sing my praises to everyone now.  What do I do?

My super weapon is lots of food.  I ply them with lots of mini snacks and drinks.  I keep making small plates of snacks and asking them to taste it. They love to eat.  So it is usually two-three pieces of mini quiches followed by a few slices of fruits followed by cheese-on-toast followed by spicy wontons followed by a couple of stuffed mushrooms followed by some mini crab cakes with an interesting dip...you get the idea.   I also situate them in comfortable arm chairs, in front of the TV, with blankets, next to the fireplace.

Basically all that food and the warm comfy place gets them full, drowsy, sleepy and then they go off to take a nap.  They also feel very happy to think that I am slaving away at kitchen (I am not - these are premade frozen stuff) and that I care enough to keep giving them food and drinks.  It gives me a great opportunity to escape.

I am always in sight but not really talking to them. There can never be a heart to heart with them.  Another thing is that when they make a comment, I just keep asking them questions.  I am also super cheerful and they eventually give up. Example -

My kid comes and asks me for a snack. MIL says "This is not the time to snack and you will spoil your appetite for lunch".  I immediately ask her "When DH was growing up, what was your snack policy?".  She will launch into a long litany of how she did things.  Then I will ask her "What was his favorite snack? What is an easy snack to fix?"  In the meantime, I have fixed a snack and given to the kid, and also asked  101 questions to the MIL.  She gets exhausted after some time and just goes away. [/quote]

This made me laugh so hard - brilliant! [/quote]

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