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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I don’t get why that turned you off. [/quote]

+1  He was basically saying he likes you and is hoping you can fit him into your schedule in the near future. I don't think anything else was intended.[/quote]

+1. I think you are reading too much into it. This is why texting leads to a lot of miscommunication.[/quote]

This isn’t a texting miscommunication issue. OP said she had to tell him to kind of ease up and he follows up with her needing to make time for him. It’s been 3 weeks and it seems like he’s not really respecting her boundaries. [/quote]
I mean, he just said what he’d like. He didn’t say she needed to do anything. I’m not sure what he’s done that made it seem like he wasn’t respecting boundaries but if OP read this as demanding or entititled when many wouldn’t, then maybe she’s misinterpreting. If she doesn’t like him, fine, but he didn’t demand anything. He wanted to know if sis was free on Tuesday and when he wasn’t, he said he’d like her to make time for him soon.

I think I see why so many people have trouble going from meeting to relationships when every word is parsed like this and one wrong move (that is arguably just a miscommunication) and that’s it….next![/quote]

He got upset because she was going to spend time with her family. He didn’t ask when she’d be free again. He didn’t say “hey I’m getting back this week. I’ll be free xyz. Would you like to get together”. No, instead he said that [i]she[/i] needed to make time for him as if she’s been dodging him and like he’s the one who hasn’t been traveling. Again, it’s comes off as needy and entitled. Only three dates in and he’s telling her he misses her and she needs to make time for him? This is all after she told him to slow down; not respecting boundaries. It’s too much to soon. Three dates in one month is not a lot of time spent with someone new. Again, too much too soon. [/quote]

NP here. He didn't get upset at all you are making stuf so you can  demonize him because you hate men. Stop it[/quote]

I’m not demonizing him. Multiple have said that his text was a red flag. There’s a reason why we’re saying that.[/quote]
I’m not the person saying you hate men or are demonizing him. But I am another person saying it didn’t sound to me like he was upset. If there are multiple people saying his text is a problem, and multiple saying it’s not, can we at least agree that it’s not clear what he meant?

Regardless, it’s OP’s right to blow him off; I just genuinely don’t see an issue with his text.[/quote]

On its own the text isn’t that bad - still off putting but not relationship/situationship ending. I think the issue is that OP had to tell him to slow down and it seems like he isn’t listening to her. This text just confirms  that he’s not respecting her wishes. [/quote]

So the issue is he's not doing exactly what OP wants. OP wants to determine the entirety of the relationship. That's not how relationships work. IT's fine to want to go slow, it' not fine to  basically keep a person on a shelf and pull them out when you want to have some attention in play time. There's nothing wrong or pushy about saying he wants  to see her. Nothing.[/quote]

Wrong. I told him from the very beginning that I wanted to go really slow. After the last date he started to talk about “our wedding” and how he wanted me to go on trips with him. He started planning a trip that same week. I said no. While he was on his trip visiting his brother he kept putting me on FT with him and telling his brother how I was going to go on this trip that he had planned for us. Then he started telling me he was missing me. That’s when I had to tell him again that I wanted to go slow. This isn’t about when I want attention and putting him on the shelf when I want. [/quote]

So why are you still dating him?  It's clear you aren't interested in him like that. and you don't want the same things? So why are you wasting time?[/quote]

How is wanting to go slow and not wanting to go on a trip with someone you just met indicative of a lack of interest? I would reacted the same way as OP even I liked him. [/quote]

Well then you're an idiot too.  They aren't on the same page and aren't going to be on the same page so  cut your losses and move on, but some people are addicted to the drama.[/quote]

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