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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][b][quote=Anonymous]Some of you are missing OPs point, it’s not that the parent reached out, it’s that the parent reached [/b]out after Op already said no.[b] This is what she finds off-putting. If my child told me her friend couldn’t go, I would never reach out to the parent looking for a yes.  [/quote]

I think the question is who she said no to.  Miscommunication, either intentional or unintentional, happens at that age.  If she told her child no, a very different message could have gotten to the other mom.  As another PP suggested, OP's daughter could have been very vague in conveying that no, and the other mom was reaching out to confirm plans.  This has happened to me.[/quote]

Thanks for all the replies.  OP here.

You’re right, it could be a communication issue here.  But, knowing my DD’s friend, I have no doubt things went like this…

DD: sorry, I can’t go, I’m really bummed and wanted to
DD friend (who is generally a pushy kid): oh no, do you think if my mom wrote to her it would be ok?
DD friend mom (a day later): sends text

So while it’s entirely possible that the other mom was trying to make plans and did not hear about the “no”, I’m 99% sure she already knew ahead of
Time that the answer was no.  She wasn’t pushy about it but I was still irked.

And yes, there are some moms out there who say yes to everything especially if the kids are pushy - there is a lot of this going around.[/quote]

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