Reply to Husband never gets up with kids in the morning

Forum Index » General Parenting Discussion

Reply to "Husband never gets up with kids in the morning "

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]What does he say when you ask him to wake up with the kids, to figure out dinner that night, to take the kids to an appointment, etc.?[/quote]

He claims to not hear them wake up. If I didn’t cook dinner, he’d get takeout, he definitely wouldn’t cook. Or like I could never ask him to start dinner except maybe I could convince him to preheat the oven for me or pull something out to thaw. I could tell him to take them to an appointment or an activity occasionally, but probably could not rely on him for regular help, particularly if it required him to alter the schedule of his work day (which my DD’s dance definitely does). But 3 days on Tuesday our busiest activity night, I asked him to empty the dishwasher and trash and also put away a shipment of toilet paper we’d gotten days prior. I can home and none of it was done. In fact none of it is still done (though I caved and emptied the trash because it was so full.[/quote]

Sorry I’m the poster above I didn’t see this when I posted.

So you hear them get up, and you get up? Why don’t you just roll over and shake him awake? Or do you not sleep in the same bed?[/quote]

I do get up. When I force him to wake up, he has them climb into bed with us and then falls back asleep. Then I get annoyed/can’t go back to sleep so I just get up. So I maybe wouldn’t even mind getting up before him as I’m more a morning person if A) I wasn’t solo parenting for an additional 3-4 hours in the morning or B) there were trade offs for me to be the one to do this.

And I don’t know how we go here either. Just little by little he started doing less so I started doing more. Weirdly, him WFH has made it worse.[/quote]

PP here. Okay, that is clarifying.

Tomorrow morning, when he tries to put the kids in bed, you say, “no I’m sleeping, take them in another room.” If he lays down, you shake him. “No sleeping! You are in charge of the kids!”

Even if it sucks for you (which it clearly will for at least the first few times) do. not. get. up. Your husband is a jack@$$. Your only option is to be incredibly, unreasonably, absurdly stubborn about what you won’t do. Sucks, but it’s better than exhaustion. It’s like training a toddler. [/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics