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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Not to hijack, but I have a very similar 3 year old. He currently spends 8:30-noon playing outside and 3:30-5, and he still comes home wild. I see a lot of recommendations on this thread for preschool, but won’t that be a lot of having to sit still? My impression is that kids do an awful lot of structured activities and not much active time. I’m planning to put my son in DCPS pk next year but am dreading it. I’m worried about where all that energy will go! How did it work out for others with similar children?[/quote]

At a good preschool they won’t be sitting a lot. They shouldn’t be climbing on whatever they want and wreaking havoc, but they will be moving from station to station and doing different play based activities. Hopefully a lot of gross motor activities too.

The benefit of preschool is that they have structure there which you are less likely to have at home. A strict routine, consistent consequences for bad behaviors, and more. Students learn what to expect and behave accordingly in a loving structured environment.

I’ve seen kids act like angels in my preschool class and absolute terrors to their parents after school, in the car during pickup and dropoff, (and parents tell me—at home).

Find the right preschool for your child and it could be life changing!

—preschool teacher

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+1 to all of this. A good preschool will wear your kid out -- mine sleeps better since starting at her DCPS because her days are so full. She went to private preschools part time before this and I think she got something out of both of them, but she was clearly so ready for PK and there was so much more she could be doing. I'm not talking about academics (though yes, her pre-literacy has been great in school and it's great to have someone else guiding her in that way).

Kids this age don't just need physical exercise (though of course they need that). They also need a lot of mental stimulation that will help them order the world. So it's not just playground time or outside time. It's also circle time and learning songs, some structured games and activities, focused activity time where they can choose an activity (like art or blocks or water play, etc.), read alongs, neighborhood walks, etc. It's actually really, really hard for a SAHM or nanny to provide that level of enrichment at home. Even a great nanny will struggle a bit because a lot of it relies on having a group and there are things that it's hard to be set up for at home (like messy arts and crafts).

And the kids learn from each other and those inputs are so valuable.

They don't just need to be physically tired, they need to stretch their brains and their social muscles. Preschool is really the only way to do that.[/quote]

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