Reply to Thanksgiving - do I continue to put out effort?

Forum Index » Family Relationships

Reply to "Thanksgiving - do I continue to put out effort?"

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous]Ugh your family sounds very sad and dysfunctional Op. I’m sorry you don’t have the big, warm family gatherings you wish you did. I know how you feel. When I was growing up my grandparents (moms side) would host a big thanksgiving meal and our whole large extended family came and it was so much fun…playing card games, playing football in the yard, lots of music and lively conversation. Some of my best childhood memories. But after my grandfather died and my grandmother got too old to host on her own the tradition just died out. My parents and aunts and uncles either didn’t continue it bc without my grandparents to tie everyone together and kind of get the party going, there just wasn’t enough impetus to put on such a big event anymore.

My mom isn’t that close w her siblings and she’s also not a very social person herself and never has been the type to host. I also am the eldest of 3 and have 2 younger adult brothers, one of whom is single and lives at home w my parents, the other is married and has 1 kid but is very aloof and uninterested in having much of a relationship w me or my family…it sucks. I wish I could give my kids those fun, big family events that are such good memories for me but we just don’t have that type of family anymore. And truly I think it’s pretty rare to have that. My husbands family is even smaller and more disconnected than mine. And most of my friends live far away from family and hardly see each other. It is what it is unfortunately. It shouldn’t be on you to be the only one trying to keep this going if no one else will put in any effort.[/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics