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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My husband leaves his stuff around the house.  Everywhere.  I warn him that if he doesn't pick up after himself, I will throw his stuff in the trash.

And I do it.  And he's adapted and doesn't leave his hats, shoes, underwear all over the house any longer because he wants to keep his stuff.

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Another nutter.

I don't understand anyone in relationships like this.[/quote]

But you also told him up front that you were a) not okay living in a cluttered home and b) not willing to shoulder the burden of cleaning up his clutter indefinitely so c) you would throw his stuff out.  You actually used your words, then followed through with actions.  That gave him an opening to say, “I think you are being controlling.  I LIKE having all my stuff out.” Or “What if we hire a housekeeper and I agree to tidy once a week before she comes?” Or anything else.  Instead he agreed with your premise that he was messy and it’s not your job to clean up and tried to do better and the built-in consequences helped.  This is actual communication, not nagging followed by retaliation.[/quote]

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