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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]No. I have nothing to hide, but it’s still a private space. Like a journal. I keep a lot of notes and chat with good friends archived. It’s not anything I wouldn’t talk with him about, but it’s personal. I don’t think he’d feel comfortable either. We use one another’s phones in a pinch, but they’re quickly returned. I don’t wear his shoes either. [/quote]

This. Having some mystery and privacy is very important to maintaining a healthy relationship.

If you’re going through each other’s phones that is a symptom of a much bigger problem. Either you don’t trust your partner, or you are too insecure to be happy in the relationship, or both.[/quote]

Well OP asked if you would be okay with them having access. Didn't ask if you thought they'd use that access.

One reason I have zero problem with my DH having access to my phone is that I trust him not to go snooping. He would never go looking through my chats or emails with friends or something. So it would be no big deal for him to have access to it. And if for some reason he did have to go searching through it (I don't know, say I went missing and he was looking for clues), I wouldn't worry about what he'd find. Even if normally it would be something I'd keep private because I do have a life separate and private from him. I'm not trashing him in those chats or emails, for instance, or conducting an affair.

I agree some mystery and privacy is good for a relationship, but you don't establish that by hiding your phone from your husband. You establish it by having a trust and respect for one another's boundaries.[/quote]

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