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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You are calling too much.  It is unreasonable to expect to talk to your adult son during his vacation with his wife.  Talking once a week to an adult child is more normal—maybe 2-3 times a week.  The frequency you mention is more normal for middle aged kids with elderly parents where the kids want to make sure mom has not fallen down and feels bad she is bored and has no life.  It’s nice you have a close relationship with your son.  Maybe call him during the work day so  you’re not stealing time from his wife?[/quote]
Talking to his mom is not “stealing time” from his wife. It may be annoying, but that may be a husband problem, if the calls are when he is at home.
On the other hand, OP, the fact that you posted about this sounds like you are addicted to the current dynamic.
Personally, I don’t wanna spend my vacation talking on the phone. But I would text my folks every few days to say we are still having fun and we are ok.
I talk to my parents almost everyday, I am middle aged and they are 70’s but not feeble and half the time they are busy about to go out.[/quote]

The problem isn't the OP talking to her son everyday for a few minutes it's that when she's told her son and his wife are unplugging for 2 weeks that she throws a fit and can't handle not being able to talk to him for 2 weeks
 That screams enmeshment issues to me. Again this isn't a 12 year old boy that she needs to be in contact with everyday on vacation to make sure he is ok and that he is behaving himself he is a grown married man.

The OP didn't indicate any health issues she may have as a reason to need to be able to talk to her son everyday while on vacation. I truly don't see OP's problem here. It speaks to her enmeshment issues or that she may not have a lot going on in her life or have an active social life that this is so devastating to her.

Huge difference between talking to your child everyday because you want to and then the extreme of not being able to live your life because you can't talk to your son everyday. It sounds like OP may be lonely or trying to use her son to fill a void in her life.

OP I wanna kindly suggest maybe spending some quality one on one time with your own SO if you have one or even do something for yourself see some friends. Something to make the time to by faster and to occupy your time.[/quote]

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